Even if casual relationships don’t usually last that long (meaning sex should still be hot by then), people who are in this kind of relationship may start to feel that sex is getting boring. This could mean disaster. In most cases, sex is the glue that keeps a man and woman together. Considering that it is just a casual relationship, you should not be too worried about losing him or her. But maybe you are. If you want to spice up your relationship, then you got to do something about boring sex.
Boring sex can happen to people who’ve been together for quite some time. If you have been dating someone casually, it doesn’t mean you’re not going to experience this. Dating the same person for some time and hooking up with him or her numerous times can also lead to boring sex. You have to spice up the relationship if you still want to keep it or if you still want to remain happy.
Recognize the presence of a problem
You got to admit that sex is not as good as how it used to be. When you first saw each other, you just wanted to have sex all the time. Now you don’t even look forward to sex anymore. You know that sex has become boring when you can’t even recall when you last had sex. It may have been too long ago or it was completely unmemorable.
Another sign that there is a problem is when you don’t spend so much time and effort making yourself look good before hooking up. A lady will no longer put on her most alluring clothes and a guy may not be interested in using his favorite perfume.
You may also look at sex as another activity to do for the day. If it has become routine, then it has definitely gotten boring. And the last sign, which is the most alarming, is when you are not turned on with the person anymore! Once you know that there is a problem, you can start looking for ways to deal with it.
Ensure that nothing else is bothering you except sex
In a boring situation like what you are in today, there might be something else bothering the two of you. Before you spice up your sex life once again, make sure to address other problems. How do you know that something else is wrong? One is when you feel distant from the person. Casual relationships don’t require you to have a very strong bond. You don’t necessarily have to feel very close to the person, but you should at the very least still feel some sort of connection. It’s the one thing that keeps you together. If the casual relationship lacks this, then there is really something wrong.
If you think about other people too much, then the casual relationship may just be a waste of time for you. Also, if you get into fights pretty often and the two of you are most of the time unhappy, then there is a bigger problem you have to face. Casual relationships don’t typically have major problems. After all, there’s no commitment involved and you are just there for fun. However, fights may still be present. And when you get into fightsoften, you have to think about resolving the issue or forgetting each other completely.
Talk about the problems you have
Spicing up a casual relationship is only possible if you have talked about your problems and dealt with them appropriately. Spicing up this kind of relationship does not have to be about sex all the time. You can do what other couples are doing. They talk about their concerns and look for ways to straighten them out. Listen to what he or she has to say. You also have to express your concerns. By being open about the relationship, you will know what’s going on and you can find ways to spice it up. You can only add spice to a casual relationship if both of you are still willing to go through the trouble.
When it’s time to resolve the issue, try to be romantic or do something different. Make love in a new location and try new positions. You can even wear sexy clothes and try new scenarios. Lastly, keep the relationship interesting. It may be something casual only, but it is still worth a try. When it still does not seem right, think about ending it so you can move on with your life.