Women can still feel sexually satisfied even if they don’t reach orgasm. But this should not make men become lenient and feel like they don’t owe their women anything. It’s always another story when women reach unearthly bliss. Men try so hard to fulfil their partner’s sexual desires. Then again, it’s important to understand that not every woman can reach orgasm all the time. There are a lot of instances when women don’t climax. Here are 5 reasons why your woman may not climax the first time you have sex.
She needs more foreplay
There are a lot of instances when men feel like going to the main event right away, but their lovers are not yet ready for it. They want more foreplay, but can’t say so. Women are typically afraid to share their desires. They are worried that their partners might get frustrated. Your woman may feel the same. She may be too conscious about herself and all she wants to do is please you.
The clitoris is the most sensitive part of her body, and it has to be stimulated the right way. Also, men have to understand that women usually need 20 minutes to get close to orgasm. Skipping foreplay may be fun at times especially when having a quickie, but there’s no doubt that any woman would love to have enough time for pre-game action as it turns her on and helps her reach orgasm. Although 20 minutes seem like very long, it doesn’t really matter for the good guys out there. So if you want to make her climax during the first time, spend some time for foreplay. Don’t rush your lady.
She’s thinking about a lot of things
One can easily get distracted during sex. Once this happens, it’s going to be very hard to climax. Mental distraction triggers the brain to decrease pleasure. You can’t really do anything about it unless you decide to stop in the middle and talk to her. You’ll know if a lot’s on her mind because she looks distant. You have to let her relax and encourage her to empty her thoughts. Let her breathe slowly. This should get her focused in no time. Once she’s focused, you can do everything all over again. And don’t forget the long foreplay.
You ignored her clitoris
Although women love it when men manage to hit their G-spot, they still get the most pleasure when their clitoris is stimulated. The C-spot has more nerve endings than the vagina, so it’s hard for women to reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation.
When having sex, go for a position where her C-spot will be rubbed often. She can be on top of you or you can take on the missionary position or doggie style. It isn’t really the position that matters, but the angle and the way she moves her body. Don’t hesitate to guide her and ensure that her C-spot is stimulated with every thrust.
She forgot to pee
This may sound ridiculous, but it does happen. If she forgot to pee, she’ll feel like going to the bathroom once you stimulate her G-spot. When this happens, she won’t be able to climax. She will just clench up and never let go. There are also some women who think their ejaculatory fluid is pee. When it comes out, they try to cut the flow and they never reach orgasm. Fortunately, it’s very easy to deal with this. Let her use the bathroom before sex.
You change positions very often
Although acrobatics keep sex interesting, testing different positions makes it hard for women to orgasm. Women need steady stimulation. And the position should hit hear pleasure points (her C-spot and G-spot). A rhythm has to be developed and it should be consistent. Otherwise, the woman will lose momentum. At times, she’ll have to go back to the beginning. In case this happens, don’t be frustrated. Turn her on once again and keep her close to orgasm.
Unselfish sex is the secret to have your sexual desires fulfilled all the time. Understand the needs of your woman. She might be shy to share it with you. Knowing what keeps her from reaching orgasm allows you to take control of the situation and help her climax. Trust me. She won’t ever forget you if you make her orgasm during the first time you have sex. Not every man can do that. Succeeding at making her climax only means that you care about her sexual desires and not only yours.