Between the two genders, a woman is known to express herself and her feelings more than his male counterpart. While such thing seems true, most women also have their fair share of deep, dark sexual fantasies they are afraid to tell anyone, especially men. Perhaps they are afraid of being judged of their thoughts. Maybe the thought of confessing them to a man puts their demure and sophisticated image at risk. Or maybe, they’re just waiting for that one guy who knows his way through their psyche and who appears to be a potential sex god. But what better way to know their sexual desires than to get them to confess to you?
Initiate the small talk
Every conversation always starts small. Engage her in topics she can easily share her thoughts to; say, what she does for work, her likes and dislikes, then to a childhood secret she does not tell a lot of people about. Tell her something like, “I bet you never got into trouble when you were a little girl.” When she starts responding otherwise, hold on to that opening. Challenge her again by asking, “Oh, yeah? So you’ve done something so “bad”, too? Tell me about it.” That will push her into revealing more of her untold stories to you.
Get her to share her wild experience with her friends
You see, when a woman is out with friends, she tends to let her guard down by doing what her girls do. Thus, she does what she does not normally do just to “join the mob”. It’s called conformity. It does not mean she’s not comfortable with herself. It only serves as your gateway ticket to how wild and sexily reckless she can be when she lets herself go. Make her reminisce those crazy moments and eventually tell you all about them. However, she may not tell you the whole of it, with some parts filtered for her own convenience.
What’s easier to reveal, though, is something that one of her friends did. I mean, come on. It’s easier to talk about other people’s nasty experiences than yours. After all, she might have been doing the same nasty thing her friend had done. The key to winning that story is just to avoid judging. Whatever she says, don’t be rude by making snide remarks that might just ruin his mood for storytelling in just one snap of a finger.
Tell her one of your own secrets
One of the things that can make a woman trust you with her stories is when she knows that you’re giving as much as she is. That way she knows it’s even between the two of you and she isn’t going to be short-changed. So plan ahead on which secret you are going to sacrifice. Play fair and tell the truth. Start with something that she can possibly relate to – like during that one time when you were only five when you kissed your cousin. At some point in a woman’s life, she has almost always fallen for a taboo.
One more thing: be as detailed as you can be. This seems to make your story more believable and might even challenge her to tell her stories as detailed as you have.
Go for the kill
This is it, the moment when she gives you her most precious secrets of all – her sexual fantasies. After you’ve told her your darkest secrets, she will most likely feel indebted to tell as well and might even want to outdo them. She will feel like that you two have a connection because you have entrusted each other with a part of yourself. Now, it’s time for her to “pay back”.
Make sure that she’s laying out her greatest, darkest secret of all. She might probably give you something lame such as sneaking out to party at midnight. When she gives you this, tease her into saying more than that. Perhaps you might want to say, “Hey, I’ve told you something really good back there and this is all I get? I’m pretty sure you’re some kind of an innocent girl who’s probably never kissed before.” That will get her fired up. You just have to follow the process and divulge dirtier and dirtier secrets by the minute. Because you have already created this “bad girl” image for her, she would probably want to stay consistent with it, thus making her more comfortable in sharing even her sexual fantasies with you.
At the end of the day, don’t make fun of her and whatever she has said. She did not reveal herself to someone for nothing. Reward her by buying her a drink, or maybe taking her home and making her sexual fantasies come to life.