Casual sex can be so much fun. Well, it depends on the situation. How about casual sex with a co-worker? Is it a good idea? Initially it may seem like a great idea. Later on, it can become one of the worst things that ever happened to you. It starts with flirting, casual sex, drama, and then ends with everyone telling you that you shouldn’t have gotten into the casual relationship in the first place.
Some people met their life partners at work, but this does not mean that you’ll meet yours. There is still a chance, but that’s pretty low. It’ll work better if you don’t belong to the same departments or you don’t spend too much time together in the office. Then again, if you look at the overall picture, it’s still not wise to have casual sex with a co-worker. Here are some reasons why.
You reveal your love life to everyone in the office
Even if you don’t call it love life since it is just casual sex, it’s still pretty much the same. Everyone will talk about you. No matter how hard you try to keep the relationship a secret, people will eventually know. When everyone becomes interested in you and your partner, the relationship can easily crumble. It’s just no longer worth all the scrutiny.
You can expect morning meetings to become awkward
The two of you have common friends, and talking about these people can give you a good laugh. However, the story is entirely different when it comes to sleeping with each other. You’ll be happy with the relationship you’ve built until someone gets serious with someone else. When that happens, meetings can be awkward. It will never be the same again.
Your co-worker (or even you!) may kiss and tell
This is bound to happen. Even if you make a vow not to share your sex life with the rest of the office, someone at some point will kiss and tell. It’s very disappointing to know that everyone in the office is aware of your sex life. You can just stay away from the person forever. But what if he’s the IT guy and you need to contact him when something goes wrong?
It affects your job and your chances of being promoted
It wouldn’t matter that much if you work in different departments. However, if you work closely, your job may be affected with the casual relationship. This happens when one gets promoted and the other is left behind. If the person is your boss, others will think that you are sleeping with your boss in order to stay ahead of others. Your boss may not even promote you at all. When there’s a project where the two of you will work together, a manager may decide to pull you out of the project or give you a different shift.
It can destroy your reputation
If you were still in high school, you wouldn’t really care if people would look at you negatively. You can still finish school despite having a bad reputation. It’s different when you’re trying to build your reputation as well as your career. You don’t want everyone to think that you’ve slept with several of your coworkers when in fact you’ve only slept with one of them. Rumors can destroy your reputation and your career. You worked hard for it, so make sure not to risk it for a casual sex partner.
There is a huge possibility that the relationship will fail
You don’t want to think negatively, but you have to accept the fact that this kind of relationship has huge chances of failing. Breaking up is hard, and that goes for all kinds of relationships. When you break up with a coworker, you will have a harder time as you will be seeing him or her every working day. If the person is your boss, you’ll have to take directions from him or her. If you work in the same department, you may have to work alongside each other or attend social functions together. It wouldn’t be a big problem if it ended properly. But what if it involved dumping and major misunderstandings? You may start to perceive work as a total nightmare. And if you’ve got a challenging job, this situation can easily affect you.
So if there’s a co-worker that you are attracted to and wish to sleep with, make sure to know the pros and cons of having a casual relationship with that individual. No doubt the sex part is very exciting. But remember that not everything happens in the bedroom. Think about how it will affect your work and your relationship with other people in the office. Finally, determine if a casual relationship with a co-worker is worth the risk.