Casual dating can be an important phase for you if you want to have fun and perhaps find the right partner for you. Dating casually will put you in a dating scenario where there are no expectations and agreements. You just get to know the person you are dating. This is not something new. In fact, a lot of people are into casual dating.
One way to get yourself into a casual date is by communicating with someone you like. It can be anybody. It can be your crush, a neighbor, a stranger that you just met. As long as you are willing to know more about the person, then you can go out on a casual date.
One of the most popular ways to communicate nowadays is by sending text messages. It has surpassed the usage of a traditional letter and calling. Text messaging can be very effective to get you into casual dates. To maximize and become effective in attracting a date, you can use these messaging tactics.
Start by giving your potential date with a flirty text
Trying to create a rapport through texting can be a bit tricky. The best thing that you want to do when starting out is to be original. If you know who you are dating and both of you were in the same event, then try stating something funny about that event or experience. Asking simple questions will also not hurt you as you establish rapport. Ask open-ended questions as this will elicit more response and will make the text conversation more alive. Do not ask too technical or mind boggling questions; these types of questions will only make the conversation boring. Another way of trying to give a flirty text is by making a critical observation about the person. Using your wit is one flirt tactic you shouldn’t miss.
Even if you are texting, be mindful of your spelling and grammar. Think of it as if your spelling and grammar are your clothes and actual body. If you do not practice texting with the right spelling and grammar then, your date will probably think that you dress poorly or you don’t pay attention to details.
Catch your potential date’s attention
Once you have already established a connection, the next part that you must do is to make this a stable (not necessarily a meaningful) connection. Avoid texting on a daily basis. You should be cool and try to text at least once in a while, if not wait for the other party to start texting you. This is a good way to assess if the other party is also interested in you.
Timing is also important. If the person sends you a message, it will be cool if you don’t respond immediately. This will play a trick on the person’s mind. They will think that either you are not desperate to date them or that they may be just assuming you want them. This will result on the person to accept any date proposal from you in order to know what your real motives are in establishing a connection.
Time to ask your chosen partner to go on a date
By this time, both of you are probably comfortable exchanging text messages. There are several ways to invite the person out on a date. If you are texting enough and your flirting has been effective, then it is time to invite the other person out. You can just be plain straight and simple if you invite them out. You can text, “Would you like to have a drink or dinner?” or you can also be suave by pointing out that you really enjoyed texting and that if it is possible to meet and talk more in person. More or less it should go like this, “We have been texting a lot and I surely enjoyed it. I would like to talk to you even more in person. Can we pick this up over dinner or drinks?” If you are not that confident yet, you can also be casual by going out together with other friends at a party or enjoy a couple of drinks.
Going on a casual date is simple if you are confident and if you have the right methods. Sending text messages can be a great way to start it. It will not only help build confidence, but it can also help you prepare for a planned date. Just don’t push too much and create expectations. After all, this is only for you to get into a actual casual date and not into a long-term relationship.