It’s always been known that women love to cuddle and talk after sex and men would rather leave or drink. You’re lucky if your man takes the time to talk or even cuddle with you; not every guy out there would go through the trouble to talk to a woman or cuddle with her after his orgasms. The situation gets worse when the man and the woman isn’t in a relationship and just had casual sex. A guy who is in a serious relationship would most probably spend a couple of minutes to give her lady what she wants because she loves her and cares for her. This is not expected in casual sex. Casual sex, after all, does not involve love and any emotional attachment. If casual sex doesn’t involve feelings, why do women still want to cuddle and talk after the deed? Let’s take a look at some of the reasons for this.
Release of certain hormones
The way women react after casual sex can be attributed to hormones and neurochemicals in the body. Vasopressin, dopamine, and most especially oxytocin can easily influence the way women feel after sex.
Oxytocin, also known as the “cuddle” hormone, is released when a woman is turned on. The hormone increases her feelings of trust, security, and love. She is also more relaxed at this point. When there is physical contact, the body releases oxytocin and the lady starts to feel a special kind of bond with her partner.
Oxytocin levels increase during orgasm in both women and men. Dopamine, a neurotransmitter, is also released. Dopamine creates excitement and gives a person with a strong sense of well-being and pleasure.
The effects of both dopamine and oxytocin make women not just attached to their lovers, but they also associate pleasure and happiness to their partners. However, the effects are less significant in men because of high levels of testosterone. This may also be a reason why men handle casual sex and one night stands really well. On the other hand, women are very susceptible to the effects of both dopamine and oxytocin, and it is one reason why they cuddle and want intimacy after sex.
Vasopressin, a hormone found in men and women, also affects both genders in a different way. The hormone has an important role in a person’s bonding behavior. Women tend to respond positively to social situations as opposed to men who are a bit harsh.
She feels vulnerable after sex
Each lady wants to feel important and loved even for a couple of hours following sex. She likes the feeling of being adored. Although women who engage in casual sex don’t expect men to love them, this feeling often comes involuntarily.
It completes the entire experience
Reaching orgasm gives sexual satisfaction. However, a lot of women feel that the experience is only complete when there’s cuddling or even talking after sex. It doesn’t matter whether she’s in a relationship with the man she’s sleeping with or not. She just wants to make the experience a great one.
It’s her way of recharging herself
Women can have several orgasms, but it doesn’t usually come one after the other during a single round of sex. In some cases, a woman just wants to recharge herself both physically and emotionally before she does it again. She does this by cuddling and talking to her partner.
It adds compassion to sex
There are times when sex becomes really wild. “Animal” sex is truly fun. Women like that wild session to be followed by cuddling where they feel compassion and romance.
Preparation for round two
Cuddling and kinky talk can turn on both man and woman. It’s a good preparation for the next round. It can be considered as after-play for the previous round and foreplay for the next one.
It’s her way of saying to her partner that she wants to talk
Casual sex partners don’t really need to talk after sex. It isn’t necessary especially that there are no strings attached, no expectations, and no commitments. They’re having sex just to have fun. Then again, it’s typical for women to become intimate after sex (blame it on the hormones). They treat like it’s an intimate date, and that’s why they usually engage in a conversation with their partners.
There’s good reason for a woman to want to talk and cuddle after sexual sex. It’s up to the man to understand her needs and give her the chance to do what she wants. It might just be casual sex. But considering that people engage in casual sex to have fun, a man shouldn’t be selfish to give her a sexual experience she’ll never forget.